5 Rudiments for Increasing Emotional Intelligence.

“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.” — David Caruso

What is  emotional intelligence???

Emotional intelligence briefly speaking is the capability to understand,  control  and sucessfully  express one’s own feelings along with engaging and navigating fruitfull with other people around you.

Let us look at six key points  that we can use to develop our emotional intelligence.

  1. The Capability to  lessen   emotions that are negative:

When you feel negative  about someone’s behavior, prevent yourself  from jumping to a negative conclusion instantaneously. Instead, come up with multiple ways of viewing the situation before reacting to the situation.

2. The abiity to  remain calm and control stress:

Majority  of us  feel various levels of stress in our life. The difference is how  two people handle the stress. For example in workplace  if an employee is under pressure he/ she should remain calm. The employee should in such a situation  splash some cold water on your face and go breathe some  fresh air.

3. Being assertive and expressing  difficult emotions when required:

At times in life we should know when to  set the boundaries.One way  to remember  when needing to express difficult emotions is the XYZ technique – I feel X when you do Y in situation Z. Here are some examples:”I feel strongly that I should receive recognition from the company based on my contributions.”

4. The capability  to stay proactive while facing a difficult person:

Many of  us come across a difficult person either at home or at  workplace. In some situations when you are dissapointed with someone,  take a deep breath and count till 10.

5. Bouncing back from hardships:

Life is not a   bed of roses.  The way we think, feel and act with respect to challenges in life can point out the  difference between for instance victory  vs defeat and optimism versus frustration. Individuals  should ask questions like what will I learn from this experience ? What is most  signficant now and other  questions that will help the  individual to handle the situations properly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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